German dating vs american dating
On one such occasion, we were discussing relationships.
After telling her about a relationship of mine which lasted six months, she told me that she had been with both of her two previous boyfriends for six years each.
But as with everything else here in Germany, nothing is strange, better or worse, it is simply just different.
Another difference I learned during my orientation class was that when a German couple first begins to date and gets to know each other, they share their first kiss after a longer period of time compared to a similar couple in the U. Apparently, this is also true for other countries, because some of the international students in my class mentioned that compared to the U.
But when you’re surrounded by American media, filled with Barbie dolls, waif skinny models and Baywatch breasts, the idea of what ‘beauty’ is becomes skewed. European men have a quiet confidence, a demeanor that doesn’t need to scream out loud to prove themselves. The dating culture involves trying out many different options at the same time.Then these boys grow up and are exposed to the opposite sex in an abrupt, often sexualized way. This is definitely seen in how they treat not only women, but everyone around them.The consequence of this is a lack of understanding of women, a lack of comfort and often, a lack of respect. There is a courtesy, consideration, chivalry and thoughtfulness in how they act, behave and engage with others.Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.
However, my teacher’s claim was later given real-life substance when the topic of couples and dating came up with my tandem partner.